40 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME

I did this a year ago and now I’m doing 40facts to add to it. I hope you find this at least mildly entertaining.

  1. I am the eldest of four children; I have two younger sisters and one younger brother.
  2. I have a pet dog called Rolfie. He is 8 months old and I’ve had him since he was 2 months old. He hates dog food and strangers. (He is smelling me while I write this.)
  3. I’m not a party person. I’d literally prefer to stay at home than go out, most of the time.
  4. I love make -up, especially eye make-up. *link to post on make-up*
  5. I’ve been blogging for over two years.
  6. I can’t ride a bike.
  7. My first published piece was a poem I wrote when I was 12.
  8. I’ve worked in the government.
  9. Both my parents are lawyers, ministers and authors. My mum is also a councillor in our local council.
  10. I love animated movies.
  11. I love cooking, but I can get extremely cranky if people bother me whilst I’m in my cooking zone.
  12. I’ve been singing in my church choir since I was 9/10
  13. My favourite colour is purple.
  14. RomComs are the best.
  15. I can be quite a loud person if I’m feeling comfortable but I generally hate unnecessary noise.
  16. I love education and learning but hate school.
  17. I got to sleep before 10pm most nights.
  18. I am a born again Christian and I strongly believe in God.
  19. Jesus is my life. My life is Jesus.
  20. I use twitter and Instagram way too much – (@PaulaPaceSetter)
  21. I have a complicated relationship with food.
  22. I let my age limit me in life for a long time.
  23. I find people who are similar to me extremely annoying, but at the same time they usually become my closest friends.
  24. I have poor eyesight and therefore have prescribed glasses that I never really wear.
  25. I love gospel music; it is so uplifting.
  26. I became a YouTuber in Summer 2014.
  27. The only countries I have been to are Nigeria, Belgium, France and Wales, and obviously England, which is where I live.
  28. I can be such a fangirl, but I hide it relatively well.
  29. I’m not great at making friends initially but when I become friends with someone I am also committed to helping them or supporting them. Due to this, I am still friends with people I met 10 years ago.
  30. I usually prefer covers to the original song.
  31. I hate swearing with a passion.
  32. I have strong opinions about certain topics, and I am not easily persuaded.
  33. I hate going to the cinema.
  34. I have more girl friends than guy friends but tend to be closer with my guy friends than girl friends.
  35. I don’t like boybands.
  36. I don’t drink fizzy drinks or alcohol, I only like juice.
  37. Ice cream is my kryptonite.
  38. Young people are my passion and I spend most of my time trying to positively impact young people’s life.
  39. Recently, I’ve decided I want to be a presenter, after presenting a talent show and showcase, as well as a journalist; Benny Bonsu is my inspiration when it comes to journalism and presenting.
  40. I am NOT an outdoorsy person but in Summer 2014 I went to Wales, where I climbed up a waterfall, I climbed inside dark tunnels inside a mountain and came out at the top, I went camping, I went canoeing and I jumped into a freezing lake even though I can’t swim. I literally still can’t believe that I did all of that.

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

How to make an impact – 4 simple steps

Have you ever asked yourself, ‘how do I make an impact?’ In this kind of world, it gets harder to truly be the person God made you and wants you to be.

1) Make an impact through the type of lifestyle you live
People are watching you… Us. Everyone is looking for that guidance, that ‘something’ and therefore we must be that ‘something’ in their lives, shown through our lives.Be a comforting voice or reason in peoples lives, a voice that reassures everyone. Let people know you as a positive person, a person know for uplifting words and actions, not words and actions that pull others down.

2) Make an impact through your giving.
This one is a little touchy because I know most of you lot were literally like, “Oh! Heck no! My money is my money!”, but giving don’t always mean money. It can mean giving your time, your emotions, your service, your resources or your knowledge. If someone is in need, and you are capable of helping them, help them. It’s not everyday sit and wait until they come to you begging on their needs; some days just help wholeheartedly. It is literally the little things that people will notice are different in your life. You’re in McDonald’s for lunch with a friend. You’ve already ordered and paid for your lunch. Your friend assumes he/she has more money than she actually does and can’t afford the medium diet coke with the meal. If you have that extra pound, give it to the friend. That is making an impact with your giving. Lastly, don’t be that person who keeps a record of your givings. “I gave you 33p on the 6th of June 2005, it was a Monday, and it was snowing. You was wearing a blue top, I was wearing a red.” That’s just ridiculous. Give wholeheartedly. Again, give wholeheartedly.

3) Make an impact through your speaking
Prayer is communicating with God; it is just talking. It may look like you’re speaking to yourself, but you’re not. God is listening.
You can make an impact by praying over your life and the lives of your friends, family and peers. Quick story; once, a good friend of mine was heading down the wrong path, and it was really worrying me. I didn’t feel like I could talk to her about it because she had the mindset that everyone was judging her, and that everyone, including me, was against her. In fact, it is the exact opposite. I wanted what was best for her. So I tweeted out, “What do you do when your friend is going down the wrong route?” and someone replied and said, “all you can do is pray for them.” Long story short; they are back to where they are supposed to be, thanks to the prayers of myself and her friends, family and church. If you care about someone, pray for them.
2 Chronicles 7:15
15 Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place.

4) Make an impact through knowledge and passing on knowledge

The Bible is referred to as ‘The word of God’. Technically, people wrote it, but it was under the interpretation given to them by God. I don’t know how some people expect God to pick up a heavenly pen and heavenly paper and wrote down stuff. God is a spirit and not of this earthly world. Therefore, he must use physical people to physically write down his words. When you hear or read the things written down in the Bible, your faith grows. Faith is your belief, your belief in life, your belief in God and your belief in yourself. Think about it like this, if someone verbally abused a child from a young age over a long period of time, that person will grow into a young adult and believe all the abuse the have heard over time. The Bible works in a similar way, except it is positive, reassuring words that helps you build a confidence which pulls you through troubles and problems in life. The Bible’s definition of faith is found at Hebrews 11:1 – Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Furthermore, Romans 10:17 (Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.) establishes that hearing the word of God is a priority. As well as hearing the word, you need to be able to share the word with other people. This encourages people who have low levels of faith and belief, in their selves or in life, due to what they have gone through in the past.

These four simple steps work when used all together in a persons life.
These steps are an adaptation from a message heard in church, so not all my own work.
Peace&Love.
Paula ox’

 

‘Use your talents’ monologue

I wrote this monologue as part of a production at my church.

 

 

Talents. Gifts. Smarts. Forte.

They all mean the excellence.

The brilliance.

The intelligence.

Ingenuity. Of God.

Placed and positioned carefully and precisely in your life. For a reason.

God is not random. God is not man to be random; without reason.

Heard the phrase ‘everything happens for a reason’, well it does.  

You can sing to bless and impact people.

You can dance to bless and relate to people.

You can speak well to bless and motivate people.

You can write well to inspire people.There was a precise reason and plan for you and your life.

So.

Who are you to decide to sit back and ignore that divine path set apart especially for you? Who are you to say no to the almighty God? Who are you? And you might be saying, Paula I’m not saying no to God. But you are. You really are.

We are Christians.

Which means we are called to be part of God’s large scale extravagant plan to bring the whole world to Him. To bring the whole population, to know Him, to want Him, just as we do.

That’s my mission.

That’s our mission.

That should be your mission.

Are you using your talent in the house of God?

 

 

Peace&Love

Paula ox’

 

I met young MP Chuka Umunna and I was inspired

So, when it comes to politics, I usually have no view. I don’t really know a lot about it, although I am starting to learn.

My mum is a committed member of the Labour Party. Now when I say committed, I mean committed. Like, she goes campaigning with her ‘crew’ on frosty Saturday mornings – she’s dedicated.

On Saturday 11th of January 2014, I decided to tag along with her to one of her Labour campaigns. They were handing out leaflets outside a shopping centre in a neighbouring ward. I was standing in the background, totally freezing, but totally loving the whole atmosphere and vibe. These people are genuinely passionate about their cause and want people to hear them out. They didn’t force people to listen to them, they simply explained what they believed and left people to make up their own minds. I respect that. I feel like, people should be given the information then left to choose what they believe or what they want to do with the information they received. That’s why I try to not shove my opinion down anyone’s throats (‘try’ being a significant word).

After about an hour, Chuka Umunna turned up. For those of you that don’t know (and you really should know, by the way) Chuka is a British politician, Member of Parliament (MP) for Streatham (since 2010) and the Shadow Business Secretary (since 2011). He’s kind of a big deal. My mum was seriously excited about him being there because he’s half Nigerian and from the same tribe as my family. My mum totally used him as a subject for a ‘if he can do it, you can do it’ lecture which I pretty much heard the WHOLE day but I can’t really complain. It was inspiring, especially concerning how humble he was.

Now everything I say, I say with good intentions so hear me out. Many (note how I said ‘many’, NOT all) Black, Asian, coloured, non-white or whatever you like to call yourselves people like to use their race and background as an excuse and as a reason to not succeed and to not do well in life. Many like to blame racism or the government or the police or pretty much anyone, for the reasons they are not succeeding. You guys have got to get over it. I’m not saying racism is finished, because I’m pretty sure it still exists. But for goodness sakes, we’re in a generation that has seen a Black president of the United States of America – place where racism, years ago, was horrendous – for two bloody terms. Come on now. What I’m saying is that I never ever ever believe that your colour, background or any aspect of you is a reason why you aren’t who you want to be and isn’t any indication as to why you aren’t where you desire. Get over that ‘pity me and my people’ attitude. Without being all cliché and cheesy, the only obstacle that can be a huge hindrance in your way, is you and your mind-set. That’s something I learnt YEARS ago.

Did you think it was easy for a young high school girl, living in London (a city with 8.3 million other people with dreams and hopes just like her) to randomly start a blog nearly two years ago, where she could share her love for writing and inspiring people? I had a million-and-one reasons as to why I shouldn’t do it. I had pressure to focus and get good grades at school. I had pressure to be social with my friends and be popular (and all that nonsense). I had pressure to know what I want to be when I grow up, career-wise (to be perfectly honest, I’m not even sure now, something to do with writing, I think). I was confused about who to tell about my blog, how would people take it? I was worried I wouldn’t even get views. Simply put, I was confused and worried and scared and anxious, but I went for it. And here I am.

I’m not sure where I am headed and I’m not sure what I’m going to be, but one thing I am sure about is I’ll work hard all of the time, and at the end I will succeed, and I plan on bringing my friends and family along this journey with me.

The other day I was reading the Bible on my Bible app (technology can be really great), when I came across a Bible verse that is totally perfect for this post: Proverbs 10:4 (CEB) says; Laziness brings poverty; hard work makes one rich.

This verse explains that being hard working is a positive thing in a person and makes you rich, physically rich (money and all that good stuff) or emotional and mentally rich, were you are content with life and feel like you’re a functioning, profitable addition to society and to the world. But obviously, don’t work too hard. Leave time for fun. I’m lucky because this blog is both work and fun.

The feature image is a picture my mum took of Chuka and I. She asked permission from him directly to take the photo, so I’m assuming I have permission to post it on my blog (awks if I don’t). AND I’d like to thank Chuka for inspiring me and reminding me of what I first wanted to do myself. Inspire people.

I’d also like to remind you, I follow no political party. My mother just happened to support Labour, and I went to the campaign, just to support her. But, I definitely agree with some of the Labour Party’s ideology. (Torrie fans, please don’t hate me) It’s only just occurred to me, most of you readers are not living in the UK. Please don’t be put off by the fact that you don’t understand British politics, because truth be told, I don’t either. Just be inspired by my overall message, which is work hard.

Well, this was one of my favourites. I’ve been distracted for long time on here, but I’m back on track!

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

Team healthy living

People say I always have phases in life when I’m obsessed with a particular thing, activity, music, artist etc for a while, then I get bored of it and move on. As sad and childish as that makes me sound, it is so true.

I’m laughing because on the 25th of September 2012, I wrote a post about healthy living and that phase of mine lasted like a week, maybe even less.

But now, I’m a lot more grown up so I’d like to believe I mean it for real this time.

Ever since the first day of the year, I have made a conscious effort to eat healthier. i must say, I was a relatively healthy person beforehand, because I don’t eat a lot (which is really hard to believe since I am always talking about food and complaining about being hungry lol), but this year I hope to improve my relationship with food. I used to eat really irregularly, skipping meals and bingeing. BUT NO MORE.

So far I’ve managed to stay on track, but since college is back the real challnege is back too. Part of my healthy living also, I do a 25 minitue walk every morning to college and a 25 minute walk back (so nearly an hour of walking a day which is the only nit of excersie I do).

Let’s see how that works out, lovelies:’)

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

Who do you think influences you more – your family or your friends?

So, I’d like to discuss the idea that nowadays friends and peers influence teenagers more than their families do. Is that true? And if so, why is that? I mean, surely the people who birthed you, looked after you and everything in that nature should be the people you look up to the most. I asked lots of different the same question and here are a few of their answers and interpretation as to who influences them.

Who influences you the most, your friends or family, and why?

  •  I’d say friends because I tend to avoid my family. That’s because they annoy a lot and it’s a lot easier to leave my friends when they get on my nerves.  – Male, 16
  • I would like to say both but honestly, it’s my family. I think it’s the fact that you’re always around your family as you grow up so you learn things from siblings and learn to obey your parents. – Female, 16
  • Friends influence me more in the sense that we are in the same age group and so we can relate to each other. We keep each other updated with the latest hot topics, gossip and trends. – Female, 25
  • Well, I’d say friends, probably because your friends understand how you feel on a mutual level, whereas family may only see things from their point of view, a majority of the time. In this way, you could also relate to a friend’s choices which would make me feel like I am more influenced by friends as to making choices, than family. – Female, 16
  • I say friends because you choose to spend more time with your friends than family. – Male, 16
  • Personally, it would be family but not necessarily my parents because they’re boring and don’t fully understand my generation. I would say, however, that I am influenced by my older siblings especially my older brother is who I really look up to and I would say is the  biggest influence in my life. – Male, 16
  • I think both the groups of people are equally influential in a young person’s life because regardless of how much time someone spends at home with their family, their peers and friends outside of the home are people they can relate to the most. So friends are likely to influence them a lot, as well. – Female, 16
  • I am going to say family influence me the most because family members are always around to push you to do what they want you to do, or what they think is best for you.- Male, 17
  • I would say that friends influence me more, although it may not seem like it, we really do spend a lot of time with our friends. A large majority of our colloquial terms have been adopted from our friends & peers and sometimes even personality traits. By this I mean, the way we act, our use of register, and how we address people, whether this may be formal and informally. Moreover, we care considerably more about the opinions of our friends than we care our parents. If our mum or dad suggested we saw a movie we wouldn’t necessarily be persuaded into going to watch that movie, until perhaps a friend mentions it. In a way, we are sort of driven by the social desirability presented to us by our friends. – Female, 17
  • Friends influence young people more at this stage of their lives than their family. They tend to value the opinion of other young people (not only just friends) above that of their family members. – Female, over 25
  • I would say both family and friends influence me in different ways. Family because they initially set up whom I am as a person. There are certain immoral things that I could never do because my mum and dad have brought me up that way. Your culture also plays a part; certain decisions I make will be influenced by where I am from and my culture and heritage. On the other hand, friends influence me on the day-to-day things, as I tend to see them regularly. Sometimes the influence I get from my friends clashes with that of my family. – Female, 16
  • I would say both groups influence young people. There is a wide diversity of types of young people, some who are more influenced by friends and some influenced by family, depending on the individual. Some listen to their family more as they are close to them and can gain guidance from them. Others prefer to speak to their friends about personal issues they may not feel comfortable discussing with parents, e.g. relationships or social lives. They may however confide in their siblings, depending on how close they are to them. – Male, over 25

After receiving all these different views I was confused as to what I thought the answer of this question is. I think young people are like sponges, especially at adolescence; they absorb information, behaviour and ideology from the things and people they see and hear around them. If you are always at home with your family, you’ll be more influenced by your family, of course. But also, you’ll be influenced largely by the media and internet. If you’re at home all of the time, as well as spending time with your family, you’re also watching TV, browsing the internet or reading books, thereby becoming aware of lots of new things. The new things you learn may influence the way you think, reason and perceive things and people in life. Likewise, if you’re never at home, love hanging out with your friends, and are the life of the party, you’ll obviously be influenced by your friends more. Therefore, my verdict is that it depends on the individual. You may initially have been mainly influenced by your family, as a child, but as you grew up and grew in independence, so did the places you searched for influence.

This is my interpretation. Comment bellow with yours.

 

Party like it’s my birthday

WOW, the title is quite misleading, because I am not partying but yes, it’s’s my birthday. Yay!

I’m grateful to God for adding another year to my life. Another year older, wiser, stronger etc.. In this past year, 2013, I’ve learnt so much. I’ve been through so much and I’m grateful for every minute of it, to be perfectly honest. Every hardship and good time has made me a million and one times stronger than I was this time last year.

Gosh, I’m so soppy. lol but yes, I’m grateful for life, my friends, my family, all of you and everything, generally. And that’s the main point of this post, to show my gratitude.

Peace&Love. and Gratitude.

Paula ox’