Youth on Abuse

I feel proud to be a young person whilst writing this post.

I feel proud that there are young people making a change and standing up for what they believe in. Inspiring young people is my passion, which is why I am always quick to praise and promote some encouraging, like-minded youth.

Suraj is seventeen and the founder of ‘Youth on Abuse’. ‘Youth on Abuse’ is a recently established campaign which aims to educate young people on the realities of domestic violence, through workshops at high schools and primary schools. Its primary focus is to highlight any stereotypes young people may have about victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, whilst allowing pupils to understand the forms that abusive relationships may take. This includes understanding its financial, sexual, psychological, physical and emotional shape.

Domestic violence can be such a hard, emotional subject to discuss. It can take a lot of courage to openly discuss and examine the issue. I think ‘Youth on Abuse’ is an amazing group because it demonstrates to men and women that have had to deal or are having to deal with abuse and violence, that we care. We as young people care about the problem and we are committed to deal with it.

Recent surveys reveal 40% of teenagers are already being subjected to relationship abuse. Both my parents are marriage councillors and they always say at their seminars, “Do not allow your marriage or relationship to be based on fear or dread of the other person. Get out of a relationship where you are being abused.” I totally agree but at the same time, I am not naive to believe that it is always as easy as packing your bags and leaving. That is why I respect this charity, for being a voice for people who cannot speak out.

The ‘Youth on Abuse’ aim to lower the amount of people subject to relationship abuse by implementing three elements of their strategy: Protection, Prevention and Education. They aim to fill young people with knowledge that will carry them through their adult lives and therefore positively influence them when building their future relationships. If from young ages people can learn that certain behaviours and certain acts are not okay and are not expectable in our society, we will see a significant decrease in domestic violence and relationship abuse.

“A few people have raised the issue that because we are a young group who aren’t specialised in this topic, the campaign won’t be effective.” Suraj says, completely aware of the criticisms ‘Youth on Abuse’ has received. “But I think it’s about being open to a neglected issue within our community and beyond, not necessarily being qualified. So I guess our greatest weakness is our greatest strength because the campaign puts emphasise on young people interacting with other young people on an ignored issue.”

I am a such a romantic, which means I love love and the idea of being made specifically compatible for that special someone. Domestic violence and relationship abuse is the worst thing because it takes away that joyful part of your life, and makes it a burden that you have to carry. If you genuinely believe that everyone deserves true love, as I do, you will support this campaign.

Please follow ‘Youth on Abuse’ on twitter (https://twitter.com/YouthOnAbuse) to keep updated with the movement.

Peace&Love

– Paula Melissa xx

40 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME

I did this a year ago and now I’m doing 40 facts to add to it. I hope you find this at least mildly entertaining.

  1. I am the eldest of four children; I have two younger sisters and one younger brother.
  2. I have a pet dog called Rolfie. He is 9 months old and we’ve had him since he was 6 months old. He hates dog food and strangers. (He is smelling me while I write this.)
  3. I’m not a party person. I’d literally prefer to stay at home than go out, most of the time.
  4. I love make -up, especially eye make-up.
  5. I’ve been blogging for over two years.
  6. I can’t ride a bike.
  7. My first published piece was a poem I wrote when I was 12.
  8. I’ve worked in the government.
  9. Both my parents are lawyers, ministers and authors. My mum is also a councillor in our local council.
  10. I love animated movies.
  11. I love cooking, but I can get extremely cranky if people bother me whilst I’m in my cooking zone.
  12. I’ve been singing in my church choir since I was 9/10
  13. My favourite colour is purple.
  14. RomComs are the best.
  15. I can be quite a loud person if I’m feeling comfortable but I generally hate unnecessary noise.
  16. I love education and learning but hate school.
  17. I got to sleep before 10pm most nights.
  18. I am a born again Christian and I strongly believe in God.
  19. Jesus is my life. My life is Jesus.
  20. I use twitter and Instagram way too much – (@PaulaPaceSetter)
  21. I have a complicated relationship with food.
  22. I let my age limit me in life for a long time.
  23. I find people who are similar to me extremely annoying, but at the same time they usually become my closest friends.
  24. I have poor eyesight and therefore have prescribed glasses that I never really wear.
  25. I love gospel music; it is so uplifting.
  26. I became a YouTuber in Summer 2014.
  27. The only countries I have been to are Nigeria, Belgium, France and Wales, and obviously England, which is where I live.
  28. I can be such a fangirl, but I hide it relatively well.
  29. When I become friends with someone I am also committed to helping them or supporting them. Due to this, I am still friends with people I met 10 years ago.
  30. I usually prefer covers to the original song.
  31. I hate swearing with a passion.
  32. I have strong opinions about certain topics, and I am not easily persuaded.
  33. I hate going to the cinema.
  34. I have more girl friends than guy friends but tend to be closer with my guy friends than girl friends.
  35. I don’t like boybands.
  36. I don’t drink fizzy drinks or alcohol, I only like juice.
  37. Ice cream is my kryptonite.
  38. Young people are my passion and I spend most of my time trying to positively impact young people’s life.
  39. Recently, I’ve decided I want to be a presenter, after presenting a talent show and showcase, as well as a journalist; Benny Bonsu is my inspiration when it comes to journalism and presenting.
  40. I am NOT an outdoorsy person but in Summer 2014 I went to Wales, where I climbed up a waterfall, I climbed inside dark tunnels inside a mountain and came out at the top, I went camping, I went canoeing and I jumped into a freezing lake even though I can’t swim. I literally still can’t believe that I did all of that.

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

Lost Generation?

An author described our generation as ‘lost’.

Lost. Lost connotes the idea that it is gone, hopeless, disorientated. While many young people may show symptoms of this, we are not lost. We are not hopeless. There is always hope. It’s never gone too far that it can’t be brought back and amended.

This current generation has seen things that our parents and grandparents never ever saw in such frequency and magnitude – and done so publicly and openly. They say things like teenage pregnancies, homosexuality, drugs, idolatry and crime have been around for years, which is true. But just because sin has been happening for years and years doesn’t change its nature; it is still sin. Fact. Truth. Sorry. You can call it something pretty instead, but it is still sin. Ideology and opinions will not and cannot change this.

I feel like some of today’s youth and young people are in need of being found, but I wouldn’t conclude that our generation as a whole is lost. When someone loses something, they desire to find it, and that is exactly what is happening here. Young people’s hearts are crying for something deep within them that makes them feel like they’ve lost something, but they just aren’t sure what it is. They turn to immoral things in the hope that they will find this thing. However, it can be found and they can be reunited. It’s just a matter of someone giving them guidance back to that first love.

That love that is stronger than their parents, stronger than a boyfriend or girlfriend or best friend. A love that is impartial and fair. A love that doesn’t care if you’re black or white or any ethnicity, for that matter. A love that doesn’t care if you’re tall or short, slim or fat. A love that doesn’t care what you did in the past, or what your personality was like before.

That love comes from Jesus. And it’s Jesus that gives you the strength to be a part of the ‘found generation’. The world loves to make fun of us for standing up and setting ourselves apart. The world likes to display Christians as Ned Flanders from The Simpsons – as boring, ‘do-gooders’, as a joke. But I don’t care. We are ‘do-gooders’ but we aren’t boring, we are people with purpose, people with joy, people with direction, people with enthusiasm, people with fun and people with success. And we are most definitely NOT lost. We may get shunned or overlooked, but that’s a small price to pay for eternity.

Adults seem to be the people who have diagnosed us as a ‘lost generation’, as a group of people to give up on, which I find rather ironic considering they were the ones who raised us and they were the ones who were here before us. Instead of condemning us, people need to stand up and think, “Hm… What can I do to inspire these people?” You say we lack motivation, I say we don’t. We know what we want, and we are out there getting it – with or without your help. It’s been left to us as youth to inspire and empower ourselves and that’s what we’ll do.

A lost generation? Nope, not on our watch.

 

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’