Motivating While Unmotivated – Guest Blogger: Leonie Mills

If you have ever been in this position, you’ll know how hard it is.

Being in a position of leadership or being responsible for other people is never easy. But what happens when the success or failure of something rests and you and your vim is in the minus region. When procrastination affects other people it can be a lot of pressure.

It has basically taken me 5 months to write this because I was struggling with this. But if I wrote it during, it would have been a page of me airing my complaints and struggles with no conclusion. Sometimes hindsight and reflection is needed in order to write something to completion.

Let me set the scene.

I over stretched myself in final year, took on too many responsibilities, too many projects, just too many things. I basically used all my energy in first semester, I was finished by December. Imagine running 1000m with hurdles and 50kg on your back, then when you thought it couldn’t get any worse, it starts to rain, just for effect. Life is a marathon, not a sprint and I sprinted 100m out of a 1000m race and collapsed at the 400m mark.

When morale across the whole team is down, things are starting to slack and the tasks are piling on. How does one push through and get the job done?

Motivation is temporary

Nobody is motivated all the time, if someone says they are, they are lying…

Accepting that motivation can come and go is necessary. It is not every day we will wake up rearing to go. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves why we are doing something, what the end goal is. It is not everything that we are doing that we are passionate about, maybe it is a means to an end. Nonetheless you have to get through it. Focusing on the end goal can give you that extra push you need.

Me after 4 days of doing no work when I have a deadline the next week: I just have to ask myself ‘Do you want to graduate?’

DIY < Outsourcing 

When my mum asks me to look for something and I can’t find it she says, ‘If you want something done, do it yourself’.

I applied this same logic to everything I do and it is not the way forward. I am in a group/team, yet I will do most things because ‘no one can execute what I have in mind’ – false. Learning how to delegate and share responsibilities is key as it allows people to rise to the occasion. Sometimes I think no one can do what I do, but I have just never given anyone the chance to prove themselves. We all need a break to recuperate, so if you can shift a few responsibilities that are weighing you down, do so.

There is a chance that you will ask someone to do something and they won’t do it to the standard that you want and you will have to fix their mess and it may cause more stress, but that’s a chance you have to be willing to take. Let’s just be honest, let’s just be real.

Force it

You have to pray, plan then preserve.

Self-care is very important and taking the time to rest and relax will have you working at your most productive. However, sometimes we do not have that luxury, there are time constraints and deadlines in place that you just have to force it and rest later. I only say this for short periods of time. This is not a tip for life, you will die early. Like, if you have a busy weekend, but you know you can rest on Monday or even a busy week but you can chill on Sunday. Do not be forcing it for a whole month, your health is important.

Be carried

The major key.

Matthew 11:28-30: Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Isaiah 40:31: But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

You should rely on God all of the time but the times when the road ahead is looking like a MYTH, you have to remind yourself that Jesus is there to carry you. I look back at what I have been able to overcome and achieve and I know it is only God. In my own strength I probably would have just neglected all responsibilities after December (I came to uni for a degree not ‘everything else’ soooo…) There is a divine intervention of strength at certain points that you can only attribute to God. Try and do things in your own strength and you may achieve an okay result, but with God it would have been amazing.


Being a leader is not easy and sometimes we really do put on a mask for the ‘greater good’ of the people we lead. There is a difference between putting aside your troubles in order for it not to affect the people we lead and constantly not dealing with problems while leading.

To conclude, rest but do not give up and rely on God for wisdom and strength to push through.

– Leonie Mills, Editor of thoughtsofalionessblog.wordpress.com and Founder of debonoire.com.

 

Peace&Love.

Paula Melissa xx

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