There is nothing better than being surrounded by beautiful (inside and out), strong, empowered women – all supporting and motivating each other.

– This is what is known as a Gathering of Queens.

Photography by MLM Visuals (

Photography by MLM (


Gorgeous ladies; photography by Leonie

My uni’s African Affairs Network organised a social event they called ‘the Gathering of Queens’. I was instantly hooked and promised myself I would attend, if not for the fact that my friends were on the committee, for the name!

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MLM, top: KWENU by Ifeanyi

I am ALL for referring to myself as a Queen (big Q, always!) not because I believe I am the best or whatever prideful connotations you may or may not associate with the word. I love referring to myself as a Queen because it promotes the idea of seeing your self-worth and self-value. Too often nowadays, it is way too common for young girls and women to search for their worth. Why? Why should you search for your worth, when you were fearfully and wonderfully made?

Queening; photo by Leonie (AAN)

Queening; Leonie (AAN)

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There is something incredibly precious and profound in knowing how valuable you are. But not only knowing it, actually displaying it. You were hand-crafted, delicately constructed and inside that porcelain mind of yours is something to offer this world. It is time we start viewing ourselves this way, instead of looking to other people and other things for that validation God gave us from birth.

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What do you need to do to become a Queen?

1 – Realise that you ARE one! Stop looking for someone else to tell you you’re a Queen; tell yourself.

2 – A Queen does not concern herself with trivial matters. She is not bothered by what people say about her. She is much too busy ruling and slaying. This is the mindset you need to have.

3 – Work, work, work, work, work, work! You can’t be a Queen without a kingdom or legacy. You can not sit there and expect things to be handed to you – Queens go out there and get things done!

4 – Surround yourself with a squad of Queens – that’s like-minded women, goal-oriented women. Women who will help grow you not tear you down before you even start.

MLM Visuals, Shoes: River Island

MLM, Shoes: River Island

This post is just here to remind you that you’re a queen, especially if you’d previously forgotten. But also, to remind you of your responsibilities, duties if you like, as a Queen to the world.

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MLM Visuals; details of this bag are coming soon

Dear young Queen, please do not forget your worth. Please do not sell yourself short. Respect yourself, respect that beautiful mind, soul and body. Enrich yourself with positivity and arm yourself with knowledge. Feed yourself with love and wisdom, and be ready to share it with everyone you meet.


Paula Melissa xx

Top 10 Videos of Mine

It may or may not be slightly obnoxious to create a list of my top ten videos of my channel but I don’t mind! Sometimes a little public display of self-love is needed. A little pat on the back.

Sometimes a little public display of self-love is needed.

So here are my favourite videos of mine that I have filmed, edited and uploaded to my channel, and why! Click HERE to check out my channel and subscribe while you’re there.

10. A Level Results & Encouragement

I love how much positive feedback I got on this video. Even though this is one of my oldest videos, it is still relevant every year as kids get their A Level results.

9. Baequalities

Love love love this video because it incorporates two of my favourite things – bae and pancakes lol!

8. Harmonising Challenge (ft. Pamela)

This was SO much fun to film. We love singing and doing this challenge was our way of singing on the channel, outside of my singing channel. And I must say, we can actually sing… no matter how dreadful this was lol!

7. Who/What Inspires/Motivates You?

I loved being able to get a bunch of my friends on my channel discussing what inspires them. Having motivated friends constantly pushes me to motivate myself, work hard and reach my highest potential.


This is one of my favourite vlogs that I have ever filmed and edited! This was my first bloggers event and this is when I began to feel like a real blogger. It was a fantastic day and I made some blogger friends that I still adore till this day!

5. I’m on BBC News VLOG (ft. Bolu)

This is one of my all time favourites because it was such a surreal day! I really enjoyed going on BBC News for the Queen’s birthday. This was my first taste at Live TV and broadcast journalism and I absolutely loved it!

4. Bean Boozled Challenge (ft. Pamela)

This HAD to be on this list because this video was hilarious!! I love filming with my sister. Warning – this video features us gagging and spittaking a lot!

3. The Flatmate Tag (ft. Will)

This made it to the top three because this video was so much fun to both film and edit! It features my flatmate (from my first year of university) and friend, Will, who’s an absolute legend! He’s been one of the most supportive people of my YT channel.

2. Growing Up British Nigerian (ft. ManLikeMike)

Honestly, this video will never not be funny! It was a really spontaneous video – we literally didn’t plan it. Sharing some of our childhood memories and reminiscing was really nice. Michael is literally hilarious.

1. Most Likely To (+ Girl Chat) (ft. Ayo, Bolu and Grace)

Of course this video is my number one! These girls are honestly some of the best people I know. It is such a blessing when you find like-minded people, who are passionate, love Jesus and work hard.

I am so proud of my channel and I am so so so grateful to everyone who has ever supported me. You can look forward to bigger and better content as I continue to have fun with it all.


Paula Melissa xx

Teach Me To Be Carefree

I am forever grateful for friends that keep me grounded.

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Yesterday was a good day for me. It was impromptu and chill and reminded me that life does not always need to be so carefully planned out. It is okay to relax and enjoy the ride sometimes.

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My outfit for yesterday could be titled ‘how much can I look like my little sister, Pamela’! I may or may not have borrowed both the skirt and the trainers from her.

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Pamela’s trainers and my men socks loool

And just like the outfit, I had adopted Pamela’s carefree, chilled personality for the day and I must admit, I quite enjoyed it. It was a lot of fun wondering around Central London taking blog photos, checking out cute little independent bakeries/cafes and generally living carefree – for once. I must try it more often.

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I am forever grateful for friends that keep me grounded. They are the type of people that supply endless banter when you need to throw your head back in laughter. But they are also they type of people that lend a listening ear when you need to just talk and let everything out.

I am grateful that I know people that continually point me back to God as my comforter, friend and strength giver. Especially when I seem to forget. People that do not let me have a pity party but instead hold me accountable. You’re all the real MVPs. I appreciate you people.

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This post was kind of rambly, impromptu and messy and I like that. I am taking a page out of Pamela’s book and learning how to be a bit more carefree and chill.

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And as most of you already know, I am born and raised in London yet yesterday I saw some of London that I’ve never been in. It was magically! I challenge you to act as a tourist in your own city. Afterwards, you are sure to call it home a little more proud😉


Paula Melissa xx


The Treat Kitchen!!!


When I was contacted by the lovely Jodie from The Treat Kitchen, which are a family run confectionery retailer operating in a few cities in England and nationally online, I was a bit worried. I was worried mainly because I do not have a sweet tooth. At all.

I know nowadays someone saying they do not like chocolate is almost a sin, basically blasphemy, but over the last few years my sweet tooth has managed to slowly disappear.

The Treat Kitchen sent over some goodies for me to review and I thought it would be a great opportunity to film an boxing video.

The Treat Kitchen supply over 300 different types of sweets, chocolate and fudge and have stores in Nottingham, Leicester Highcross and Intu Derby. They are opening two new stores really soon, in Coventry and Sheffield Meadowhall. But for those of you sighing  perpetually because there isn’t a store near you, sigh no longer because they ship nationally!







The Treat Kitchen took me back to my childhood with this cute little bag of pear drops. Pear drops are a traditional hard boiled sweet. While eating these I could not help but have flash backs of a young(er) Paula running to the corner shop with her little sister to buy some 5p and 10p sweets. Those were simpler, happier times!

The pear drops were really sweet and fruity, the parallel opposite of the Radioactive Cherry sours. It is a well known fact that I can (occassionally) be drama queen but no joke, these sweets were almost the end of me. I may or may not have pulled the most hilarious faces in my unboxing video because of these sweets. After getting over the intense sourness, I loved the kick of cherry. However, I stand by my original stance – Why do people like sour sweets? It’s in the name, sweets, they should be sweet!


Now on to the coconut mushrooms. I must admit, I am not a huge fan of coconut so I wasn’t sure about this one. However, I was quite pleasantly surprised! The chocolate/caramel mixture on top of the marshmallow stalk was really nice. But trust me to choke on the coconut shavings!


*Technically this post is not sponsored, but the samples were sent to me. However, as always, this is all my opinion. If a girl who doesn’t like sweets or chocolate is telling you that this brand is quality, believe me it is quality!

Check out the Treat Kitchen!




Paula Melissa xx


God Worked Through His Deception

I wrote this post for Lively Stones and can be found here!

I was reading Genesis 27:19-33, which is the story of how Jacob, with the help of his mother Rebekah, deceived his father, Isaac and stole his older brother Esau’s blessings.

I considered the fact that Jacob actually used deception as a means to receiving blessings from his dying father – this was a blessing that was due to the elder twin, Esau. The fact that Isaac had reserved this blessing specifically for Esau also implies that there was another, perhaps a smaller, less passionate blessing reserved for his second son Jacob. But Jacob (and his mum) wanted that first-born, hefty blessing.

Why would God allow their deceptive plan to work? Why would he allow Jacob to be blessed through the deception of a blind old man?

Well, it all stems to a few chapters back in Genesis 25 when Rebekah is pregnant with the twins.

22: The babies jostled each other within her, and she said, “Why is this happening to me?” So she went to inquire of the Lord.

23: The Lord said to her, “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples from within you will be separated; one people will be stronger than the other, and the older will serve the younger.”

From the beginning there had been a power struggle between Jacob and Esau and from the beginning, God had made it clear that Jacob would be on top of his brother. Rebekah must have kept this in her mind since their birth and have constantly been looked for opportunities for this prophesy to be manifested. Because God had decided this, I believe that no matter whether Isaac wanted to bless Jacob or not, Jacob would have been blessed. It was already ordained.

When God has a plan for your life, a destination, a destiny, I believe there are different paths to reach it. There is the path that God has initially created for you. This path has His divine backing all of the way, but that does not mean that it is smooth all of the way. Let me be real, with God things are not suddenly easier, but they are doable because you have a source of never ending strength in God.

With God things are not suddenly easier, but they are doable because you have a source of never ending strength in God.

As well as the path God has planned for us to take, there are paths outside of His will that we, as humans, often stumble across because sometimes we think we know it better. We do not. While these paths were not where God wanted us to go, He will still use our circumstances to elevate us to that final destination. That is what happened here!

God was NOT happy with Jacob deceiving his dad and Jacob did have to suffer later on in life as a result of his actions. Jacob even had someone deceive him – his uncle Laban made him work more years than agreed to marry his daughter. God has a sense of humour, so be careful what path you try and follow, especially if you know that God is not a part of it.

It is comforting to know that in all things, God is in control. Even when we deviate from the script. Even when we getfaith confused and think we are making mistakes. God can work through our situations to make us strong, wiser and better, ready for His ordained plan for us. Whether we feel like we are on the wrong course at university or we are confused about our futures – find peace in the knowledge that God’s got our backs.

Practically speaking, pray, pray pray then do not be scared to jump. One thing I have learnt this year is that in certain areas, what God wants us to do is not always clear. So just pray and jump. And trust that He will be there to catch you because He will be.

Pray, pray pray then do not be scared to jump.



Paula Melissa xx

Jones Bootmaker Shoes Wishlist*

A girl can never have too many shoes – or at least that’s what I’ve been told! In my experience, some boys have more shoes than I have ever known, but that is a story for another day.

The British shoe company, Jones Bootmaker have been making classy shoes in London and the rest of the UK wellllll before I was born. I put together a little high-end wishlist of some of their shoes!






I’m straight lovin’ these little boots in both the black and brown! The heel looks sturdy but stylish and the cute tassels make them a little more fun and playful!





I love the colour of these! The pale blue is sure to tie together any outfit and make you look great without looking like you tried too hard. They kind of remind me of a more feminine Timberland – these are a pair that I could literally wear all year round!

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I might just have a new obsession with tassles because I am loving these boots! I like the suede material that looks gorgeous in both the black and tan colour. These boots could easily ‘dress up’ or ‘dress down an outfit.

Jones Bootmaker Carnival Court Shoes High Heels

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These elegant shoes are definitely one of my faves on the site! The pointed front and brace give it such a classy look. The black is more of a everyday work look compared to the camel snake/lizard-printed one. That one could be saved for special occasions when you’re going all out!

Jones Bootsmaker have a sale for you guys so click here and give their site a browse!

For more gorgeous shoes, accessories and clothes, here’s another luxury store to check out – Garment Quarter.


*This post is sponsored however, as always my opinion is my opinion😉


Paula Melissa xx

Look Mum! I’m on BBC News! + VLOG

The title was basically my reaction when I found out two nights before going on BBC News. I literally called my mum and hyperventilated down the phone to her. Basically, I was very excited.

When I was contacted by a woman on Twitter asking me if I would be interested in appearing on The Victoria Derbyshire show on BBC News for the Queens 90th bday, of course I thought it was a joke. A few emails and calls later, they had booked my train ticket to and from the studios and cars to drive us around London.

Wow! What a whirlwind day it was.

This was my first TV appearance so of course I had to get a recording of it – (Huge thanks to the BBC for giving this vid to me).

I am so blessed to get a taster of something I want to do in the (near!) future. That day really did firm how much I want to work in broadcast journalism, and I am now even more motivated to get there!

I am also so grateful to my friend, Bolu for coming along with me (on super short notice, mind you!) and making this experience even more enjoyable. Bolu also acted as my personal photographer and took some amazing pics. Check them out below.

I am not really going to refer to the rather offensive comment the elderly woman on the panel said (watch the video to see) because I want this post to remain positive. I am still quite proud of my response to her and I stand by what I said.

Make sure you check out my VLOG of the day below!

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Paula Melissa xx


Vapiano – Manchester



Last month, myself and three of the best blogger babes in the North of England – EllieLily and Erin, were invited to VAPIANO Manchester to try some of their dishes as well as check out their #EatPastaRunFaster campaign.


It is a German company making Italian food. And as if that isn’t enough of a USP (Unique selling point – who said I’ll never use GCSE Business Studies again lol), they have a quirky way of ordering and paying for your food.


Upon arrival, you are given a Vapiano card that kind of works in the same way as a credit card. When you order your meals, they scan your card and save it on there. This is incredibly helpful, especially when there are a group of you and you’re all paying for different meals and different drinks and all that hassle.



When ordering food you go up to the counter – there is a different one for each course – and you order your meal to specification (I love this because I’m picky). And the best thing is that you can literally see them cook the meal right in front of you. No more waiting for ages only to find your meal has been made wrong. Those days are over!



I used to have a huge sweet tooth. While that tooth is rather tamed nowadays, I still have a deep love for dessert. So after a fantastically large meal (I was too embarrassed to ask for a doggy bag!) came dessert time and as everyone knows, we have a separate stomach for dessert.

The girls and I went for the classic, get four desserts and eat a quarter of each each.



Lily modelling a deliciously chocolatey dessert!

All in all, it was a wonderful evening. The service was efficient, the food was delicious and the ambience was lovely! If I would have to find a qualm (like if I was being extremely picky) I would say maybe the meals were a bit too big. But then again, that might just be because I’m used to eating smaller meals lol!



I have got to say, a huge thank you to the manager for treating us so well and ensuring we enjoyed our meal and time there!

If you are ever in Manchester or London I would definitely recommend VAPIANO!



While our meals were complimentary, these views here are my own. I can be very picky with food, so if I say it’s good food, know it’s good food!


Paula Melissa xx

Tips for ‘Examline’ season – VIDEO

I am going to keep this short and sweet because both you and I need to get back to studying.

It is now around that time of year where people in education are being assessed by some form of examinations, whether that be exams or coursework or practicals. What ever it is, it can cause major spikes in our stress levels.

I thought I would steer you to a video that helped me in January when I had my first uni exams. It was made by a friend of mine, Michael (or ManLikeMike to the YouTube world;) and it discusses how to balance your time during the ‘examline’ season. He’s hilarious as well, so it’s a good watch. Don’t forget to drop a like, subscribe to him and comment that I sent you;).

Follow him on Twitter/Instagram/YouTube: @_MANLIKEMIKE



Paula Melissa xx

Bloggers’ event – Jet2Sunchester and VLOG

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A few months ago, I was contacted by a package holidays company called Jet2Holidays. I was surprised that they would want me – a small lifestyle blogger and vlogger – to attend their bloggers event but after confirming with the lovely Natalie that they had in fact deliberately sent the email to me and not to someone else with a blog also called Paula Melissa, I was very happy to attend.

It all began with me having to get to Manchester for 1pm. Coincidently, it took me the same amount of time to get to Manny (I have been informed by native Mancunians that no one calls it that) as it did to realise that the ‘sunchester’ aspect of Jet2sunchester was a witty pun in reference to sunny weather and Manchester. Which was quite ironic because it rained the whole day.

I arrived at the event half anhour early – I am either really late or really early… there is no in between.

Sol Katmandu's very own mascot - Boro the Yeti!

Sol Katmandu Park and Resort’s very own mascot – Kumar the Yeti!

Bloggers are professionals at the art of networking. Networking is basically staring at someone across the room from you, trying to see if you follow them on Twitter or trying to decide what their blog is about. One girl told me that because my make-up looked nice I was either a beauty blogger or a lifestyle blogger – see, professionals.

Food is the way to my heart and Jet2 were evidently very much aware of this.






The room was a sea of people dressed in bright colours, with glitter on their faces and cameras in their hands. Some of the crazy ones (e.g. me – vlog below) were even talking to their cameras – also known as vlogging.

Photo credit to Lily

Photo credit to Lily

Photo credit to Lily🙂

The whole event was summer holidays themed and Jet2 had four different destinations in the room.


A woman from the Tenerife package holiday told us about one of the biggest water parks in the world, Siam Park and the fantastic zoo, Loro Parque. This is definitely a place on my bucket list, especially for the point in my life when I become an exotic, adventurous person. Until then…

A man spoke about a holiday to Malta, one of my favourite holiday destinations (that I have not yet been to)! He spoke about the rich Maltese culture as well as the up and coming music scene with everyone from Jessie J to Annie Mac to Stormzy performing there.

I made a new friend ;)

I made a new friend😉

There were two different stands for Majorca, Spain, just because there are so many different kinds of things to do there. The Sol Katmandu park and resort in Mallorca is more of a family holiday as all ages enjoy the theme parks. Their GIF-making photobooth was so much fun.

The second destination in Majorca was by BH Mallorca – widely known for their partying and over-18s fun! They told us about their resort complex which has 3 different experiences within it. The Stage where DJs perform, the Twisted water park and the Island Beach Club where you can enjoy daytime pool parties. They recreated this whole atmosphere in a mini lounge/bar area, where I took the opportunity of grabbing a cheeky mocktail.

The whole day was fantastic! I made some lovely new blogger friends – Lily KateErinRodica and Ellie!

Where were you, Rodica haha

Enjoy the VLOG of the day (and sub to my channel, please and thank you).

Google any of the resorts mentioned or check out the others holidays Jet2Holidays provide or check out their website –

Thanks for the invite Jet2 and for the great summer hols ideas!


Paula Melissa xx

Eating alone

IMG_4544I had a me, myself and I kind of day. As selfish as that sounds, sometimes it is greatly needed and incredibly healthy.

It was about time I did something by myself, for myself. I got to explore my city more and ended up finding places that I never knew existed. After about 3 hours of walking and travelling I thought it was time for some food. I found a super cute American-style diner and as most people know about me, I love American food. So I went in and immediately felt something weird about the place. Everyone was staring at me, and I was confused as to why.

Turns out nowadays it is strange to go to a restaurant by yourself. The  waitresses pitied me and kept asking me if I was okay. Bless them. I was okay, why did they not believe that. I just wanted my food.

Please do not ever feel that you have to have people around you 24/7 in order to be happy. You need to learn how to be comfortable in your own presence. So comfortable that you can sit at a restaurant by yourself and not feel shameful or awkward.

As I draft this post, I am sitting in this restaurant, completely confused as to how and why I am so comfortable doing this. Eating alone might not be a big deal to some of you readers but what you need to understand is that a few years ago I would have rather died that been caught eating or even sitting alone. I thank God that I am so happy in my own company and in the person I am now that I do not feel I need to always be surrounded by my friends or family to be content. My happiness is not dependent on who I am around or where I am. It is dependent on me.

On the other hand, I am not saying that you do not need people in your life. My dad always says, ‘no man or woman is an island.’ We as humans need each other. We crave companionship and friendship – it is innate. I, for one, love my friends and family and all the people God has put around me, but every single day, I am learning  that my joy comes from God and myself and not from them. Yes I have fun with them and being around them is some of the most enjoyable times in my life, but I can never forget that they are people, like me. People, like me, who make mistakes and can disappoint. Therefore, I cannot hoist all my hopes and dreams on them, because when (not if) they disappoint or fail me the only person I can really blame is myself.

So just a reminder today, invest some love and time in yourself. I promise you, it is okay to do so.


Paula Melissa xx

Paula and pals take York

I spent my weekend in the historic town of York.

As most people know about me, I am a city kid. I was born and raised in London. All I know is London. To have the opportunity to explore the tiniest bit of York (a totally authentic Northern city) for a few hours was something that I will be grateful for for a long time.

I went to York with my university’s Christian Union and as well as the scenery being beautiful, so were the people.

Enjoy these few pictures of  York taken by and featuring myself and my friends, Sophie and Francesca.










Paula Melissa xx


Tru Life’s Tru Friends – Guest Blogger

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“I used to think that friends were the people that you could laugh and talk to. Now I know that friends are not just that, they are the people that touch your heart.

You could spend hours with them doing nothing at all and it can be the best time of your life, just because it was with them. They are the people you can share your secrets with, cry with, laugh with, and just have fun with. They don’t judge you or make you change. They accept you exactly as you are. They look at you and they see a great person, one they love spending time with. You share something in common and are tied together by memories, tears, laughs, and smiles. You’re tied together by love for the other. Friendship is the strangest but greatest thing in the world. I find my time with my friends the best times of my life. My friends are my heart, my soul, my fun, my laughter, tears, love and my life.

Although, personalities can changes with time. what I have come to realise is people who you grow up with can change considerably. You no longer talk, no longer see each other. When this happens it is one of the hardest things to grasp. I mean it took me close to a year to get over the people that I did not keep in touch with and I will tell you the TRUth it hurt.

Not seeing the people that you use to see every day.

Not talking to the people that you used to not go a day without talking to.
Not talking to the people that you thought you would never stop talking to.

People change and with change brings either positivity or negativity. I let negativity get to me. I was always down, putting up a fake smile, saying I was good when really I wasn’t. When all I wanted was someone to talk to. I had nobody to get advice from when I needed it. I had nobody to tell me what was right or wrong.

I tried to start life with a clean slate. You face decisions, make choices. You keep moving forward. But sooner or later there comes a time where you look back over where you have been in contrast with where you now are and wonder who you really are.

So one day I decided to sit down and fully reflect on my Tru life. I had to look at myself objectively and I honestly did not like what I saw. I began cutting people off slowly who had bad intentions for me, as well as people who only told me what I wanted to hear from them and did not ever challenge me to reach my fullest potential. I began surrounding myself with positive, successful, ambitions people.

Letting go of the past is not something you do once and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey. A journey that is often filled with both steps forwards and steps backward.

Then I ask myself again what are Tru Friends?
A Tru friend is a person who is there for you through thick and thin. A Tru friend does not judge you by the clothes you wear, or the size of your house. A Tru friend has love for you no matter what you both go through. A Tru Friend should always have a shoulder for you to cry on. A Tru friend stands by you in your times of need, and listens eagerly when you are excited about something. They notice and remember every little thing about you. They stand up for you when others do not.
Show me your friends and I will tell you the type of person you are!”
Written by Josiah Longhor – Guest Blogger
Tru Life – The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth
Tru Life began in 2010 as an avenue in which to express Tru views and touch people’s lives.
Check out the latest posts about real life situations, society, relationships and more.
Paula Melissa xx