Jehovah Jireh, My Provider

Guys, this is a really real, really raw post, because right now, in this very moment, I am feeling some really real, really raw feelings.

It is days like this, moments like these that I begin to understand why they call God Jehovah Jireh! He is a provider. When you need something, He will supply it for You.

Coming to University was a new experience for me. It was my first real taste of actual independence. I am an adult. I am in charge of what I do, where I go, what I eat and perhaps most importantly where I spend my money.

This summer before uni, I got a job and worked really hard with the intention of saving money. However, as soon the money touched my bank account, it seemed to instantly evaporate literally into thin air. I suddenly had all these expenses and I watched as my hard-earned money disappeared.

You do not realise the value of money until you work for it yourself. You start to question all your purchases, like “This dress is worth 2 hours of work. Is it really worth it?”

I then got to the stage, nearly a month into uni, when I realised that food is expensive. So are textbooks. So are clothes and washing and printing and buses. Everything costs money and I was running low on the stuff.

So I did what any reasonable person would do. I called my parents. I expected a swift transfer of money into my account, instead I was met with “Trust in the Lord, Paula. Don’t worry.”

Okay. My parents  quoting Bible scriptures is a normal occurrence for me and usually it is quite comforting, but not this time. Like, obviously I trust in the Lord but can you just transfer some money to me please???? [They did eventually send me some money. Eventually!]

But reluctantly I did. I trusted in God and left the fact that I had no money in His hands and did not allow it to ruin my day.

I call Him Jehovah Jireh because He provides in ways that are beyond our imagination. He provides through means that we are not even aware of.

If you take Him as your Jehovah Jireh, He will show up strong. Just call out to him, leave it in His hands and trust in Him.

 

Peace&Love.

Paula Melissa xx

FRIENDSHIP

A friend (within or outside marriage) is that person who will still hold your hands when you are in error.

A friend is the person who may be unable to solve your problem but can give you a shoulder to lean on.

A friend is the person who can listen to you even when you are not making sense.

A friend is the person you are not afraid of sharing your struggles with.

A friend is the person who can still call you ‘my friend’ when you do not deserve it.

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do the things which I command you. No longer do I call you servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I heard from my Father, I have made known unto you. Ye did not choose me, but I chose you, and appointed you, that ye should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should abide: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you. (‭John‬ ‭15‬:‭13-16‬ ASV)

 

– written by anonymous guest writer

 

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

WHO IS YOUR SHARPENER?

“Iron sharpens iron; so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Prov. 27:17, NLT)
The people you keep around you will determine how effective you would become in life. You would either move faster or slowly due to their push or pull. You can never be drastically different from your friends. You are just like them, in their belief system, the way they think and talk, and what they prioritize. Therefore, be mindful and carefully who you allow into your life. A Judas may betray you and an Absalom may try to overthrow you. A King Saul may want to take away your life before you get to your throne and a Delilah may want to seduce you, deceive you and take away your strength and render you powerless. For your life to reach where God has destined it to be, you must filter your contacts. Not everyone around you can help you get to your destination. Some may be destroyers and others may be detractors. Beware! Just like iron sharpens irons, move with people who can bring the best out of you.

40 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME

I did this a year ago and now I’m doing 40 facts to add to it. I hope you find this at least mildly entertaining.

  1. I am the eldest of four children; I have two younger sisters and one younger brother.
  2. I have a pet dog called Rolfie. He is 9 months old and we’ve had him since he was 6 months old. He hates dog food and strangers. (He is smelling me while I write this.)
  3. I’m not a party person. I’d literally prefer to stay at home than go out, most of the time.
  4. I love make -up, especially eye make-up.
  5. I’ve been blogging for over two years.
  6. I can’t ride a bike.
  7. My first published piece was a poem I wrote when I was 12.
  8. I’ve worked in the government.
  9. Both my parents are lawyers, ministers and authors. My mum is also a councillor in our local council.
  10. I love animated movies.
  11. I love cooking, but I can get extremely cranky if people bother me whilst I’m in my cooking zone.
  12. I’ve been singing in my church choir since I was 9/10
  13. My favourite colour is purple.
  14. RomComs are the best.
  15. I can be quite a loud person if I’m feeling comfortable but I generally hate unnecessary noise.
  16. I love education and learning but hate school.
  17. I got to sleep before 10pm most nights.
  18. I am a born again Christian and I strongly believe in God.
  19. Jesus is my life. My life is Jesus.
  20. I use twitter and Instagram way too much – (@PaulaPaceSetter)
  21. I have a complicated relationship with food.
  22. I let my age limit me in life for a long time.
  23. I find people who are similar to me extremely annoying, but at the same time they usually become my closest friends.
  24. I have poor eyesight and therefore have prescribed glasses that I never really wear.
  25. I love gospel music; it is so uplifting.
  26. I became a YouTuber in Summer 2014.
  27. The only countries I have been to are Nigeria, Belgium, France and Wales, and obviously England, which is where I live.
  28. I can be such a fangirl, but I hide it relatively well.
  29. When I become friends with someone I am also committed to helping them or supporting them. Due to this, I am still friends with people I met 10 years ago.
  30. I usually prefer covers to the original song.
  31. I hate swearing with a passion.
  32. I have strong opinions about certain topics, and I am not easily persuaded.
  33. I hate going to the cinema.
  34. I have more girl friends than guy friends but tend to be closer with my guy friends than girl friends.
  35. I don’t like boybands.
  36. I don’t drink fizzy drinks or alcohol, I only like juice.
  37. Ice cream is my kryptonite.
  38. Young people are my passion and I spend most of my time trying to positively impact young people’s life.
  39. Recently, I’ve decided I want to be a presenter, after presenting a talent show and showcase, as well as a journalist; Benny Bonsu is my inspiration when it comes to journalism and presenting.
  40. I am NOT an outdoorsy person but in Summer 2014 I went to Wales, where I climbed up a waterfall, I climbed inside dark tunnels inside a mountain and came out at the top, I went camping, I went canoeing and I jumped into a freezing lake even though I can’t swim. I literally still can’t believe that I did all of that.

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

How to make an impact – 4 simple steps

Have you ever asked yourself, ‘how do I make an impact?’ In this kind of world, it gets harder to truly be the person God made you and wants you to be.

1) Make an impact through the type of lifestyle you live
People are watching you… Us. Everyone is looking for that guidance, that ‘something’ and therefore we must be that ‘something’ in their lives, shown through our lives.Be a comforting voice or reason in peoples lives, a voice that reassures everyone. Let people know you as a positive person, a person know for uplifting words and actions, not words and actions that pull others down.

2) Make an impact through your giving.
This one is a little touchy because I know most of you lot were literally like, “Oh! Heck no! My money is my money!”, but giving don’t always mean money. It can mean giving your time, your emotions, your service, your resources or your knowledge. If someone is in need, and you are capable of helping them, help them. It’s not everyday sit and wait until they come to you begging on their needs; some days just help wholeheartedly. It is literally the little things that people will notice are different in your life. You’re in McDonald’s for lunch with a friend. You’ve already ordered and paid for your lunch. Your friend assumes he/she has more money than she actually does and can’t afford the medium diet coke with the meal. If you have that extra pound, give it to the friend. That is making an impact with your giving. Lastly, don’t be that person who keeps a record of your givings. “I gave you 33p on the 6th of June 2005, it was a Monday, and it was snowing. You was wearing a blue top, I was wearing a red.” That’s just ridiculous. Give wholeheartedly. Again, give wholeheartedly.

3) Make an impact through your speaking
Prayer is communicating with God; it is just talking. It may look like you’re speaking to yourself, but you’re not. God is listening.
You can make an impact by praying over your life and the lives of your friends, family and peers. Quick story; once, a good friend of mine was heading down the wrong path, and it was really worrying me. I didn’t feel like I could talk to her about it because she had the mindset that everyone was judging her, and that everyone, including me, was against her. In fact, it is the exact opposite. I wanted what was best for her. So I tweeted out, “What do you do when your friend is going down the wrong route?” and someone replied and said, “all you can do is pray for them.” Long story short; they are back to where they are supposed to be, thanks to the prayers of myself and her friends, family and church. If you care about someone, pray for them.
2 Chronicles 7:15
15 Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place.

4) Make an impact through knowledge and passing on knowledge

The Bible is referred to as ‘The word of God’. Technically, people wrote it, but it was under the interpretation given to them by God. I don’t know how some people expect God to pick up a heavenly pen and heavenly paper and wrote down stuff. God is a spirit and not of this earthly world. Therefore, he must use physical people to physically write down his words. When you hear or read the things written down in the Bible, your faith grows. Faith is your belief, your belief in life, your belief in God and your belief in yourself. Think about it like this, if someone verbally abused a child from a young age over a long period of time, that person will grow into a young adult and believe all the abuse the have heard over time. The Bible works in a similar way, except it is positive, reassuring words that helps you build a confidence which pulls you through troubles and problems in life. The Bible’s definition of faith is found at Hebrews 11:1 – Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Furthermore, Romans 10:17 (Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.) establishes that hearing the word of God is a priority. As well as hearing the word, you need to be able to share the word with other people. This encourages people who have low levels of faith and belief, in their selves or in life, due to what they have gone through in the past.

These four simple steps work when used all together in a persons life.
These steps are an adaptation from a message heard in church, so not all my own work.
Peace&Love.
Paula ox’

 

Another one on stress and worry

Stress is one thing that I have learnt never really and truly goes away, unless you do something about it. I like to talk about stress because I pretty much battle it everyday. There have been blogs on the topic, videos on the topic (click here), talks about the topic; I’ve done everything. And yet, I still haven’t fully dealt with it.

As a girl, I feel like the problem is a million times harder and stronger because we just stress about school, work, boys, how we look, what people think about us, careers, and literally everything in between. It’s like we subconsciously enjoy worrying and stressing about things that we can’t even change. It’s like we get a strange buzz from telling people the irrational worries that we have, that keep us up all night and occupy our innermost thoughts. It’s almost fun describing these unlikely scenarios to people. I know I do this.

There was a time, I spent hours telling my friend all the silly worries I had about this particular guy. The worries and stresses were consuming my every thought and it genuinely felt good to unload them to my friend. I kept being reminded by an annoying little voice in my head, that I wasn’t pretty enough and that he probably didn’t like me. My friend was so blunt and was just like, “Why doesn’t you just ask him? At least that way you’ll know and you can stop stressing and move on.” So that’s what I did, and even though I didn’t get the answer I wanted, it felt good to have that load off my back so I could finally stop thinking about it all.

The whole point of what I’m saying is, we need to stop worrying and stressing about things we genuinely can’t change, and start fixing and working on the things we can. That’s my new life motto and I’m working my way there. Trust me, it’s not the easiest thing, but God is helping me!

I read in a book called ‘An Enemy Called Average’ by John L. Mason, that “every obstacle has a limited life span.” This means that something you are worrying about today isn’t something you’ll even remember in a weeks time, a months time, a years time. Life moves on and therefore the struggles pass.

Just remember, if someone makes you worry more than makes you happy, you probably do not need them in your life. Cut them out. Simple as. Life is much too short to be anything but happy. On that extremely cheesy note, I’ll end this. But let this be a new beginning for you!


Peace&Love.
Paula ox’

‘Use your talents’ monologue

I wrote this monologue as part of a production at my church.

 

 

Talents. Gifts. Smarts. Forte.

They all mean the excellence.

The brilliance.

The intelligence.

Ingenuity. Of God.

Placed and positioned carefully and precisely in your life. For a reason.

God is not random. God is not man to be random; without reason.

Heard the phrase ‘everything happens for a reason’, well it does.  

You can sing to bless and impact people.

You can dance to bless and relate to people.

You can speak well to bless and motivate people.

You can write well to inspire people.There was a precise reason and plan for you and your life.

So.

Who are you to decide to sit back and ignore that divine path set apart especially for you? Who are you to say no to the almighty God? Who are you? And you might be saying, Paula I’m not saying no to God. But you are. You really are.

We are Christians.

Which means we are called to be part of God’s large scale extravagant plan to bring the whole world to Him. To bring the whole population, to know Him, to want Him, just as we do.

That’s my mission.

That’s our mission.

That should be your mission.

Are you using your talent in the house of God?

 

 

Peace&Love

Paula ox’

 

Book review – Leona Lewis’ ‘Dreams’

 

I’m not usually a fan of autobiographies or biographies, but Leona Lewis has single-handedly changed that idea with this one book – ‘Dreams’. Unlike, other celebs, Leona didn’t fill the book with a million-and-one facts about herself and her life, she briefly outlined her story of how she began to live her dreams, hence the title. ‘Dreams’ is an autobiography, which means Leona wrote it entirely from her own perspective and in her own words. I feel like this helps to produce that personal atmosphere which is present throughout the whole book. It is definitely easier to connect to an autobiography than a biography – in my opinion.

For those of you that don’t know, Leona Lewis is a British singer that came to stardom when she won The X Factor (UK) in 2006. The X Factor is a word-widely televised singing contest which has become increasingly popular as it gives normal everyday people the opportunity to live their dreams. Many countries have different adaptations of the show e.g. The X Factor USA in America.

‘Dreams’ was first published in 2009. I finished this book in about two hours because I literally could not put it down. No joke. You know when people say that a book was so good that they couldn’t put it down; well yes. I suffered from this because I would not put the book down. I felt like this was because Leona told the story directly herself, making it a lot more engaging than if someone else has written it. As you read, you hear her voice talking to you, telling you her story personally. Very few books have ever made me feel so up and close with the person. Leona Lewis is genuinely a gorgeous person, inside and out.

Also, I think Dean Freeman, the photographer and creative director of the book, is so crazy talented at what he does. As I mentioned before, one good thing about this book is how short it is. The ‘writing’ takes up less than 95 pages, making it an extremely easy read. Personally, I could have finished it on a long car journey or a flight to Paris (bear in mind that I live in London, which is only a 45 minute flight from Paris. I would know, I went there last summer). The rest of the book is filled with pictures, taken by Dean Freeman. I’m someone who loves pictures, taking them, modelling in them and looking at them, so the many many shots of Leona, her friends and family and a few other famous faces are literally the cutest things ever to look through. Nice touch.

Overall, I think this book was put together in a smart, clever way to ensure it came across as intimate, informative and interesting to the readers. If that was the specific aim, it was completely successful. It really sold Leona in a positive light, just by presenting her to the world, as herself. No gimmicks.

Leona Lewis has always been one of my favourite female vocalists and this book has made me fall even more in love with her. Her beauty surely isn’t only skin deep.

If you want inspiration, I recommend this book. ‘Dreams’ has reminded me to never stop dreaming and also to dream big. I’m getting there!

 

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

I met young MP Chuka Umunna and I was inspired

So, when it comes to politics, I usually have no view. I don’t really know a lot about it, although I am starting to learn.

My mum is a committed member of the Labour Party. Now when I say committed, I mean committed. Like, she goes campaigning with her ‘crew’ on frosty Saturday mornings – she’s dedicated.

On Saturday 11th of January 2014, I decided to tag along with her to one of her Labour campaigns. They were handing out leaflets outside a shopping centre in a neighbouring ward. I was standing in the background, totally freezing, but totally loving the whole atmosphere and vibe. These people are genuinely passionate about their cause and want people to hear them out. They didn’t force people to listen to them, they simply explained what they believed and left people to make up their own minds. I respect that. I feel like, people should be given the information then left to choose what they believe or what they want to do with the information they received. That’s why I try to not shove my opinion down anyone’s throats (‘try’ being a significant word).

After about an hour, Chuka Umunna turned up. For those of you that don’t know (and you really should know, by the way) Chuka is a British politician, Member of Parliament (MP) for Streatham (since 2010) and the Shadow Business Secretary (since 2011). He’s kind of a big deal. My mum was seriously excited about him being there because he’s half Nigerian and from the same tribe as my family. My mum totally used him as a subject for a ‘if he can do it, you can do it’ lecture which I pretty much heard the WHOLE day but I can’t really complain. It was inspiring, especially concerning how humble he was.

Now everything I say, I say with good intentions so hear me out. Many (note how I said ‘many’, NOT all) Black, Asian, coloured, non-white or whatever you like to call yourselves people like to use their race and background as an excuse and as a reason to not succeed and to not do well in life. Many like to blame racism or the government or the police or pretty much anyone, for the reasons they are not succeeding. You guys have got to get over it. I’m not saying racism is finished, because I’m pretty sure it still exists. But for goodness sakes, we’re in a generation that has seen a Black president of the United States of America – place where racism, years ago, was horrendous – for two bloody terms. Come on now. What I’m saying is that I never ever ever believe that your colour, background or any aspect of you is a reason why you aren’t who you want to be and isn’t any indication as to why you aren’t where you desire. Get over that ‘pity me and my people’ attitude. Without being all cliché and cheesy, the only obstacle that can be a huge hindrance in your way, is you and your mind-set. That’s something I learnt YEARS ago.

Did you think it was easy for a young high school girl, living in London (a city with 8.3 million other people with dreams and hopes just like her) to randomly start a blog nearly two years ago, where she could share her love for writing and inspiring people? I had a million-and-one reasons as to why I shouldn’t do it. I had pressure to focus and get good grades at school. I had pressure to be social with my friends and be popular (and all that nonsense). I had pressure to know what I want to be when I grow up, career-wise (to be perfectly honest, I’m not even sure now, something to do with writing, I think). I was confused about who to tell about my blog, how would people take it? I was worried I wouldn’t even get views. Simply put, I was confused and worried and scared and anxious, but I went for it. And here I am.

I’m not sure where I am headed and I’m not sure what I’m going to be, but one thing I am sure about is I’ll work hard all of the time, and at the end I will succeed, and I plan on bringing my friends and family along this journey with me.

The other day I was reading the Bible on my Bible app (technology can be really great), when I came across a Bible verse that is totally perfect for this post: Proverbs 10:4 (CEB) says; Laziness brings poverty; hard work makes one rich.

This verse explains that being hard working is a positive thing in a person and makes you rich, physically rich (money and all that good stuff) or emotional and mentally rich, were you are content with life and feel like you’re a functioning, profitable addition to society and to the world. But obviously, don’t work too hard. Leave time for fun. I’m lucky because this blog is both work and fun.

The feature image is a picture my mum took of Chuka and I. She asked permission from him directly to take the photo, so I’m assuming I have permission to post it on my blog (awks if I don’t). AND I’d like to thank Chuka for inspiring me and reminding me of what I first wanted to do myself. Inspire people.

I’d also like to remind you, I follow no political party. My mother just happened to support Labour, and I went to the campaign, just to support her. But, I definitely agree with some of the Labour Party’s ideology. (Torrie fans, please don’t hate me) It’s only just occurred to me, most of you readers are not living in the UK. Please don’t be put off by the fact that you don’t understand British politics, because truth be told, I don’t either. Just be inspired by my overall message, which is work hard.

Well, this was one of my favourites. I’ve been distracted for long time on here, but I’m back on track!

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

Christmas Gift Ideas for Her

So, the countdown towards Christmas has already begun. Everyone is scrambling to get the right gifts for their loved ones – preferably on sale, of course. Here are a few ideas for Her, whether Her is your mum, sister, girlfriend, wife or even next door neighbour, she is guaranteed to love you.

The first item is a River Island Paris perfume set – From River Island

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River Island Paris 75ml perfume set with body lotion and gift box. Paris is our uber feminine fragrance with a sexy mix of white flowers and creamy woods blended with dark amber and vanilla bark.

Product no: 641233

Price: £15.00

What I like about this perfume set is how cheap it is. £15 for a product that looks like it should be sold for £40. Also, I love the packaging. It looks makes the perfume look classy and of high quality. This is sold exclusively at River Island.

The second item is a Spa Complete Bathing Set – from Tesco

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Offering everything you need for a pampering, relaxing bath, this Spa complete bathing set makes a great gift idea. The set includes bath salts, body lotion, body scrub, body wash, tea light candles and a bath puff.
Catalogue Number: 588-1796

Price: £5.00

Most women, young or old, love cute little bath sets because they just help you relax and feel feminine. I like this set from Tesco because, again it’s cheap (I’m a bit of a bargain hunter) but also because it comes with little candles which can make you pretend you’re in a Spa.

The third item is a Sparkle Cosmetic Bag Gift – From Next

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A radiant floriental with sparkling citrus and luminous florals wrapped in precious woods. Set contains 30ml eau de parfum, nail polish, 100ml body lotion, solid fragrance, glass nail file.

Product code: 865-470

Price: £20.00

I feel like cosmetic gift bags are literally made especially for Christmas. I know that I’ll probably receive one this year. This one has won my vote because it has so many mini components, making you feel like you’re getting more for your money. Plus, who doesn’t love some glitter?

The fourth item is a Metal Feature Necklace – it isn’t available on the high street only online at http://www.notonthehighstreet.com/poshinteriors/product/silver-metal-feather-necklace but River Island and Topshop have made similar designs.

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A lovely silver metal necklace with a unique design. A gorgeous detailed feathered effect. This stunning necklace will finish off most outfits beautifully. Versatile enough for a party, a wedding or a business meeting. A short bib style necklace that sits just below the neckline. A matching feather metal bracelet is also available in our collection. A gift box is included with this necklace and makes a lovely gift.

Product code: 202730

Price: £24.00

Although, this is a pricy one, I genuinely believe it is worth it. This feather trend is ALWAYS popular during Autumn/Winter and this year is no exception. That’s why I think this statement necklace is a great present for a young lady you know. The necklace is made from plated metal and the reviews are full of happy customers who were happy with the quality. So in this case, the price does reflect the quality. I’m usually not a fan of online purchases, but this may be an exception.

The fifth item is a Small Crystal Effect Sports Watch – From Next

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Adjustable bracelet. Case diameter 2.7 cm.

Price: £22.00

 

This watch looks so attractive and is a great present for a girl that you know who isn’t too girly. We all know one!

The sixth item is a pair of Isotoner Smartouch Gloves – Found online at http://www.firebox.com/product/2956/Isotoner-SmarTouch-Gloves

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SmarTouch Gloves are super soft, gloves with special conductive material woven into the thumb and index finger, so you can tap, pinch and scroll even when it’s minus whatever outside. Skin-like responsiveness? App-solutely. Staying toastie whilst fiddling with your gadgets has never been easier. 

Just think, with a pair of these innocuous looking gloves you’ll be able to text in the depths of winter, scroll through photos at freezing bus stops, manipulate your satnav when the heater’s on the blink and photograph polar bears without exposing delicate fingers to the elements. Now that’s gotta be worth a hand. 

Will not scratch or damage your screen

Works with most touchscreen devices including iPad and iPhone

Product code: 2956

Price: £14.99

 

You know those days when it’s so cold that you need to keep your gloves on but then you see someone has just replied to your hilarious tweet but you can’t reply because that requires taking off your gloves but your hands are already turning blue. Those days are no more. I found these gloves which are screen sensitive. They work on most touchscreen devices, but are specifically for apple products so I’d be wary if I was getting them for someone who owned a Samsung. However, the reviews are generally all positive; people believe they are worth the price, which I must admit is a little high. And apparently, when you order them at that site, they come with sweets. They also come in Black, Grey & Pink for women and Black and Charcoal for men.

Lastly, the seventh item is a Grey Faux Fur Bag – from Next

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Product code: 886-749

Price: £30.00

 

Like I also said about the feathers, fur is another trend that is ALWAYS on point. (Us females really have this thing about dressing like animals, don’t we?) This bag is gorgeous and extremely spacious. I also love the price. Next are usually overpriced but here I think the price is great for the product.

I hope this was helpful and gave you a few ideas, or just entertaining to read.

Peace&Love.

Paula ox’

How to Deal with Stress in 3 Simple Steps

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I’d like to think I’m a relatively calm person. I’m as calm as a teenage student can be in life, really. But, I know a lot of people who are the opposite of me and completely fall under the pressure of stress. I really know how to handle stress because I used to stress out about every little thing a lot. I’ve grown out of this though; I learnt how to deal with it.

 

We are roughly 4 months into our academic year and for most of us, it means we’re half way through our coursework, finished a module and are preparing for exams. Wow, time really does go by so fast, especially for first-years, like me, who aren’t so used to the speed at which college moves at. And that is why I decided to give you all pointers on how to deal with stress.

 

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1. Time Management

 

Starting college, time management was a phrase that was thrown at me a lot, and genuinely, I actually believe it’s one of the things that will single-handedly carry you all the way through college. Time management is something that will drastically lower your stress levels, by at least half (not exactly scientifically proven). Give priority to the subjects or topics you know you’re not as strong in, but don’t give them too much attention or you’ll start to slack in the other subjects or topics that you know you’re good at. It’s all a balance, really.

 

2. Be Strict with Yourself

 

Okay, let’s say you’ve been eating a lot and you’re starting to put on weight, what is the solution? You have to become strict with yourself, you have to say no when you’re offered that second donut from Sainsbury, or you have to say no when you know you’ve eaten Chinese for lunch 3 times that week alone.  If you don’t say no to yourself and follow it through, you can’t really blame anyone for the consequences. Likewise, you need to know when to put your phone off (for some of us, me included, putting your phone on silent and away from us isn’t really enough) and do that homework you have been ignoring for days. You need to know when to log off Twitter or Facebook (Facebook is dead, by the way. Please don’t hate me) and open that revision guide. At the end of the day, if you haven’t made the necessary effort to work, you can’t blame anyone if you don’t do well.

 

3. Take a Break, Have a Kit-Kat

 

Honestly, this is literally the most obvious thing in the world, yet people will still forget it. We as human beings tend to need rests, so why do students feel like they are invincible? Guys, take my word for it, working until you explode really doesn’t help you or anyone else. Learn to sleep at a particular time – that really does help, believe it or not. A lot of teenagers go to sleep extremely late, and that’s completely depends on you, but if you set a specific time that you go to bed, no matter how late, your body and mind gets used to that. Your body and mind then begin to recognise when to rest and relax and when to work.

Peace&Love.

Paula Melissa xx

 

Strut in Studded Collars

If you want a versatile accessory that you can wear for a night out, as well as to college, then studded collars are for you. They make a real statement, whether worn under a jumper or with a girly dress.

The actual studded collar fashion trend started back in 2009 by fashion giants, Prada, but has now made a comeback looking bigger and better than ever. I think it’s because they look fierce, assertive and attractive. You can either wear the actual collar or shirts which already have studs or embroidery on the collar. Major sweetheart and fashion icon , Alexa Chung has been noted for sporting this gorgeous trend, as well as other fashionable celebs; Natalie Portman, Ashley Benson and Hailee Steinfield .

celebs in studded collars Source: http://iriswholesale.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/embellished-collar.html

It is extremely easy to dress up and dress down studded collars – it all depends on what it’s paired with. For an evening out, a studded blouse with a fitted blazer or jacket is always hot. For college or a meet up with friends, just slip on a jumper on top of a studded collar shirt. So simple. So chic.

studded collarsSource: http://www.arabiaweddings.com/sites/default/files/tips/2012/11/09/collar2.jpg

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Here are a few examples I found, where you can buy them and for how much. The prices of them might have decreased, however, due to Christmas, Boxing Day and January Sales. Treat your friend or sister to a studded collar top or a few studded collars for Christmas; they’ll love you. If you’re still freaking out about prices, there are many High Street options – New Look, Next and Primark will have the look for less.

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Peace&Love.

Paula ox’